Hey, Lovelies! 🌻as you know I’ve talked about having social anxiety in my past posts before, and one thing I’ve always dealt with, is having people misjudge me or my actions because of my social anxiety, so, what better to write about as my first post for my new schedule?? I hope you guys enjoy!💛
Before I start this post I just want to put this out there: Don’t beat yourself up for not being comfortable in social situations, or in non-social situations. Don’t be confused by someone pressuring you as them “helping you” YOU decide when you’re ready, no one else ♥ and if you know someone with Social Anxiety or just Anxiety, please know that pressuring that person into something is so heart wrenching. It’s already a constant battle with ourselves, and added pressure just make us more upset when we can’t do it. always remind that person that it’s okay that they aren’t ready, be there for them🌟.
One very common misjudgment I get from having S.A.D is being “rude” “disrespectful” or “standoffish” when you’re in a room full of people you’ve known for a while and you aren’t speaking, or aren’t speaking enough, you’re immediately labeled as rude or uninterested, and I’m here to say: IF IM NOT TALKING IN A ROOM IT ISNT BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO! 🤦🏻♀️Sometimes it is very very hard to speak for fear of sounding boring, or accidentally offending or interrupting someone. I know you may not understand but always remember: Just because someone isn’t speaking, doesn’t always mean they don’t want to be there.
Social anxiety isnt “OMG I hate people lol I wish I was sleeping and watching netflix!” Its ” I want desperately to be able to hang out with people but I hate the feeling of sheer panic and fear I get around them so I don’t / Can’t and it eats away at me every day so I end up staying home and say i’m sleeping or watching netflix. – V.I.A Tumblr
Another misjudgment is being “lazy” this usually stems from if I get a crumbled up piece of paper or finish something and have trash, I don’t immediately throw it away. And my response to that is: It is extremely hard to go throw something away in a public place. Why? because I don’t know whos watching me or what they’re thinking and if I’m being judged and all of these things just flow over and over in my head until I work up the courage to finally throw it away. Another thing that I’ve never been told (but I’m sure has been thought) is because when I go to my boyfriends (I’m not comfortable enough to go anywhere except the bathroom on my own yet) I usually always ask him to either come with me to get something, or he does it for me. and can I just touch on how LUCKY I am that Dillon understands and does these things for me and never complains, it’s amazing💛.
I hope you guys enjoyed this post, and if you have any misjudgments, leave them in the comments below!